Yes, I use my cell phone when I’m spending time with my children. #sorrynotsorry
I have read lots of articles and anecdotes about smart phone addictions: how our phones have become an extension of ourselves, how we are ignoring our kids because of it, how “mommy loves her phone more than me.”
My children know how much I love them, and that they are not second rate to a device. Yes, sometimes they have to wait a few seconds for me to look at their 12th new Lego design (learning a little patience is never a bad thing). But, I will not stop using my phone around them; this is what I will continue to do:
I will continue to take photos of my children doing whatever they are doing, because tomorrow when I’m at work and my heart is longing for their hugs, I will browse through the photos and my heart will feel full again.
I will continue to check my email, because like it or not, sometimes work does come home. Even a quick email back of “I see your email, and I’ll get you the answer in the morning” can help someone enjoy their family that night.
I will continue to watch for updates on a friend’s recovery as I cheer along him and his family. Learning about his specific prayer requests that day can help guide my children’s prayers that night.
I will keep checking instagram to see how an internet stranger’s daughter is doing through her chemo treatments, because although I cannot help directly, I can send love through a like.
I will continue to text a family member who is looking for help with a new baby. I can send answers, support, and love to someone struggling.
I will watch for photos of my sweet niece who lives much too far away. As much as a photo of my own children fills my heart, so does her pudgy smiley face.
I will continue to read a blog related to a stage of my child’s life, because sometimes people who have been through it before, just know more that I do now.
I will continue to use my phone when I’m with my children to keep in touch with my village. That village provides the foundation on which I stand, and I want to teach my children to grow, love on and support their own villages. This is one way I can show them how to do that.