Friday morning I received a phone call from Link’s school. He was hurt – he had a bad cut on his thumb and needed to go to the doctor or hospital. Link’s school is 30ish minutes away from my work, plus Ellie pick up time, and they said he couldn’t wait that long. I called Justin, who could have responded faster, but he didn’t answer. So I called his parents, who are 5ish minutes away from Link’s school.
Calmly as I could, I communicated that “Link is bleeding, needs to go to the doctor, can you go get him?!?!?” I’m sure I freaked them out. Then I packed up all of my things at work (except my wallet – oops!), called Ellie’s daycare and said I was on my way, called my mom, called the dr., and called Justin. Picked up Ellie, and sped as reasonably fast as I could to the doc’s office.
We arrived, everyone close to the same time. Link’s hand was wrapped in a bandage and he was wearing a glove over it. He was fine, but wanted his mommy. We got in the room, and the doctor thought it was best to head to Children’s Hospital. So my mom went with Link and I to the hospital, and Pat and Ron took Eloise home with them. When Link heard we were going to the hospital he said, “but mom! I don’t want to go back in your tummy!” Where he got that idea, I’m not sure, but the only time he’s heard about a hospital or been to one is me having babies. I assured him they were just going to make his hand better.
The staff at Children’s were wonderful, and they took such great care of him. Link was great, until he saw his cut, and then he cried a bit. If it was covered, he was fine. Especially once they have him apple juice and cheese crackers, neither of which he gets at home. He was also able to watch cartoons. They put numbing ointment over the area, and when the Nurse Practitioner came in, she evaluated the cut. She described it as a very deep papercut, and it was fortunate to be on his thumb, and not in the webbing. She said she rarely recommends glue, but in this case gluing the cut shut would be enough, and would save Link the trauma of stitches. One popsicle and a few minutes later, Link was all bandaged up and ready to go home.
This was hard on mommy, of course, but I was thankful to Jesus for so many things during that experience.
First, I was so thankful for my village. Link’s wonderful school took great care of him and reacted quickly to clean his injury well, keep him feeling loved, and were truly sad that he was hurt. Three grandparents were able to respond so quickly so Link got right to the doctor and Eloise didn’t have to come along to the hospital.
Second, I was thankful that we were the family that could wait. We waited in the hospital room for awhile, and there could have been many reasons for that. But what I know is that Link was not injured so badly that he couldn’t wait. On that note, while washing his bloody clothes, I was thankful that it wasn’t worse – I never want to have to wash blood out of my child’s clothes for anything more than a bad cut.
Last, I was thankful for my sweet boy. He was so strong. He only cried a little when he could see his cut. He was so kind to the staff at the hospital. He didn’t pull off his bandages. He isn’t upset when talking about it. Our neighbor asked him what happened to his hand, and he said “At school, I was working with a tape [measure], and suddenly it cut me! I have a bad owwie, but the bandage is making it all better”. (The metal tape measure retracted and sliced his finger).
I truly believe that raising children and cultivating a family takes a village. You can do it without one, and do it well. But I’m so blessed and glad that I have the support of my village walking alongside my parenting journey.